When you were married, family vacations meant you, your spouse and your kids. After the divorce, you still want to take vacations, but it’s a one-parent-only situation. That’s the most natural setup, as even parents who get along after divorce often do not want to spend that much time together.
However, you need to understand that the kids may still ask for a vacation with both Mom and Dad. One woman said her son often felt disappointed by vacations with her and not her ex, the boy’s father. He wanted him to come along just like he had before. They had activities they liked to do together, like playing basketball, that the boy knew wouldn’t happen if Dad stayed home.
Just because your kids ask, though, does not mean you should do it. That woman said it was just not possible for her at the moment, and she had to explain that to her son. She just was not ready for a joint vacation. It would be too stressful and emotional.
However, she did say that she hoped they may be able to do something like that in the future. She just needed to work on managing her son’s expectations and explaining to him where she was at in her own life. It was tough, but communication was key.
This may be something you want to consider as you go through a divorce and set up your own child custody arrangement. Make sure you know all of the rights and legal options you have as you navigate these complex situations for your family.