While you are getting divorced, having a successful and amicable relationship with your soon-to-be ex-spouse may be the furthest thing from your mind. In fact, getting far away from him or her may be first on your agenda. Nevertheless, if you have children and are getting divorced, the reality is that the other parent is going to be a part of your life, for better or for worse. (Yes, the wedding vows may still apply to parenting).
Even though the thought of dealing with such a petty and vindictive person for years after your divorce sounds daunting, it does not have to be. Family court judges have an expectation that parents put their differences aside for the best interests of their children. With that said, there are several ways that parents can get along for the benefit of the kids even though they may not like each other.
Don’t use the kids to further your own agenda – Simply put, kids shouldn’t be used as pawns to further your own needs. You may not see it directly as a parent (initially), but when you start making decisions based on what is best for you, and not necessarily the kids, they can become unwilling participants in your plans.
Don’t obsess about winning – Unfortunately, some marriages break down because one spouse cannot deal with not getting their way every time. In order to have a successful co-parenting relationship, winning can’t be everything.
Indeed, there are other pieces of advice for soon-to-be co-parents to be aware of. To learn more about them, contact an experienced family law attorney.