Many people delay filing for divorce until the holidays. They may be trying to protect kids, keep family peace or avoid awkward gatherings. Others delay because money feels tight or they need time to think. Whatever the reasons might be, if you are thinking of filing for divorce after the holiday, it is crucial to start planning now so you make smarter decisions later.
What to do in the weeks before you file
There are many things you can do now to prepare yourself and your life before you file for divorce. Take steady steps now so you stand stronger once you file. Start with these key actions:
- Gather financial papers including recent pay stubs, last two years of tax returns, bank and credit card statements, mortgages or deeds, retirement and investment info.
- Consider your priorities regarding divorce-related matters like child custody, property division and approaches to divorce (i.e., peaceful and cooperative versus complex or aggressive)
- Keep a dated journal of everyday life and your time with your child, noting daily routines, school and medical appointments, extracurriculars, who was present and important conversations with the other parent. Save supporting documents like school reports, doctor notes, photos, and relevant texts or emails.
- Talk to a family lawyer for an initial consult about your legal options and filing requirements in Indiana.
- If you fear abuse, contact local police or the Indiana courts about protective orders and emergency help. Keep copies of everything in one safe folder.
These steps help you move with clarity and fewer surprises.
Missteps to avoid before you file
A lot can happen between now and when you file, so be sure to avoid missteps that could make things more difficult. For instance:
- Do not post about your case on social media or send angry texts.
- Do not hide or move money, change beneficiaries or make large purchases without legal advice.
- Avoid deleting messages or destroying records.
- Don’t threaten or harass anyone.
- Don’t close accounts or leave home abruptly without a plan; these acts can affect temporary orders and custody talks.
If you feel that divorce is in your post-holiday future, getting prepared and avoiding mistakes can lower stress and lead to better outcomes.
