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Are you and your spouse growing apart?

| Feb 17, 2020 | Family Law

One common reason for a divorce is simply that two people grow apart over time. The relationship seems to fizzle out and die. Neither one of them can point to a certain event — a missed anniversary, a string of questionable text messages to a co-worker — that brought on the divorce, but they still know that’s where they’re headed.

There are a few ways that you can know if this is happening to you. Some signs include:

  • The physical intimacy leaves the relationship.
  • You would prefer to be on your own or with friends, rather than with your spouse — even when you’re just watching TV or getting dinner.
  • It seems like every conversation turns into at least a minor argument.
  • You stop doing anything new and fun together, instead falling into a rut of the same old activities.
  • You stop asking each other how you’re doing or how the day went
  • Your spouse seems like someone who is not there to support you, but to criticize your decisions.
  • When things do go wrong, you just feel like you don’t care. You’re apathetic. You know your spouse is mad and that’s fine with you.
  • Communication breaks down or stops. You don’t know how to talk to each other. Eventually, you stop trying.
  • Trust also breaks down. You start wondering if your spouse is actually being honest. When they’re out, you wonder who they’re with.

Have you seen some of these signs in your life? If so, and if it leads to a divorce, be sure you know what legal options you have.