People often stay in abusive relationships for far too long. When you just read the statistics or look at one of these relationships from the outside, it can be very hard to understand. Why wouldn’t they leave? Why do they stay with someone who commits domestic violence?
It’s very complicated. Remember that leaving is not nearly as easy as it sounds, and people stay for all sorts of reasons. A few of them include the following:
- They do not think that it is abuse. They have never been in a healthy relationship. They think that this is just what every relationship is like, so they do not know they need to leave in the first place.
- They are worried about what the abuser will do if they opt to leave. They figure that dealing with mild abuse is better than saying that the relationship is over and then facing more violence.
- They are in love with the person who is abusing them. They keep telling themselves that it will not always be this way and that they can fix the relationship.
- They are dependent on that person. For instance, maybe the abuser is also the family’s main breadwinner.
- They feel embarrassed about what is going on, and so they try to hide it. They do not want their friends, family members and co-workers to know that they have anything other than an ideal relationship.
If you have been suffering abuse, do not buy into these reasons to stay. Get the protection you need. Find out what legal steps you can take.