Indeed, going through a divorce can be an emotionally traumatizing experience. After all, you thought the relationship would last forever when you got married, and you believed that nothing could break the trust and love that you had for each other. Unfortunately, that did not turn out to be reality, and now you are across the table from each other essentially arguing over how to dissolve your marriage.
It is easier said than done to put emotions aside, but with a divorce, it has to be done. Marriage as a legal construct is a business relationship. At its core are tax incentives that essentially reward couples who live together and have children together. So when the relationship ends, the business incentives must end as well. Hence the official dissolution of the relationship.
This is where hiring an experienced and effective divorce attorney come into play. A skilled lawyer can help you understand why the emotional issues should not cloud your judgment when making decisions about your future. He or she can explain how the law works, regardless of the passions between parties, and can advise you on the best course of action to take. Indeed, an attorney cannot be a relationship therapist, but he or she can listen and answer your questions as they pertain to law.
Of course, if you need to seek therapy or just need someone to talk to, it is okay to do so. After all, it is normal to seek help while going through a traumatic experience.